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    Awful Things Husbands Should Stop Doing to Their Wives (Must Read)

    After listening to many women talk about their marriages with so much
    sadness, a Ghanaian relationship columnist admitted that many of them
    are married to awful husbands, and has written a piece for Ghanaian
    husbands. Whether we want to accept it or not, many women are victims
    of wicked men in bad marriages. These women are enduring bad
    behaviour, philandering, emotional abuse and even physical violence in
    the hands of men who should love and treat them like queens.

    It is sad and heartbreaking that when a woman cries out for help when
    she can no longer take the treatment she is being subjected to at home
    by the man she calls her husband, people tell her to zip it. People
    indirectly blame her for the maltreatment she's getting from her
    husband. They send her back heartbroken to her bad marriage.
    Men tell her to stop complaining and pray for her husband to change.
    Women tell her to deal with it because they are going through horrible
    things at home too. Pastors tell them to go back home and submit more
    while church mummies tell them to be humble and virtuous so that their
    husbands can treat them better.

    I don't know why a woman who is going through hell in her marriage
    will be advised to keep praying for her abuser to change. The ironic
    thing is that this rule is only applicable to women. I haven't heard
    of a man who was told to keep praying for his cheating wife to change.
    The double standards set for men and women in marriages are just
    nauseating.
    After listening to many women talk about their marriages with so much
    sadness, I can say that many of them are married to awful husbands.
    The annoying thing is that these men don't see anything wrong in
    treating their wives like animals. They claim that's how their fathers
    treated their mothers and they were married for decades. They refuse
    to be taught how to treat their wives better.

    If all you do is criticize your wife, you are a bad husband. She can't
    be that bad. If she were that terrible, you wouldn't have married her.
    Mr. Man, watch yourself and don't get caught in the trap of
    criticizing your wife. Choose to see the good in your wife. Compliment
    her on all the things she is doing right.
    You are not always right. And your beautiful wife is actually very
    good at making her own decisions and she can make very good decisions
    too. So stop feeling like you need to control where she's going, what
    she's doing, how much she's spending and more. Instead of stressing
    about that, work together as a team, encouraging and supporting each
    other. Let your wife be her own person, and give her wings to fly.

    Dear husband, your wife isn't an object. She is your wife, your best
    friend and your queen. She deserves your utmost respect, especially
    when it comes to s*xual intimacy. Always respect her and her body and
    work on establishing emotional connection and trust before thinking
    about sharing s*xual intimacy with your wife. s*x can be the most
    unifying, fulfilling and beautiful thing in marriage when you both
    treat each other respectfully.

    Don't be too busy to call your wife, to text her or recognize her when
    she walks in the room. The next time you see her, give her a big hug
    and tell her you love her. Let her know she is your top priority by
    putting her first – ahead of work, time with your buddies, or watching
    football matches. Sit on the couch and talk to her. Tell her about
    your day, your thoughts, your worries, and your funny experiences.

    That a woman is your wife doesn't give you the right to use dirty
    words on her. Watch your mouth. Cut the swearing habit, and remove
    crude, rude and dirty language from your vocabulary. If you can't use
    those words on strangers, don't use them on your wife. Your wife
    deserves to hear words that a gentleman would speak, not that of a
    street boy.
    Comparing your wife to your friend's wife or the women you meet in the
    course of doing your job or business is one sure way to ruin your
    marriage, your life and your future. Simply put, don't start imagining
    being the husband of these other women, you won't see anything good in
    your wife when you do that. You can only see the things they present
    to you, you don't know the real them.

    Stop telling your wife that she should dress like your friend's wife
    or make her hair the way your female colleague makes hers. That's
    insulting and demeaning. The last thing your wife needs to hear is
    that she doesn't measure up to your unrealistic expectations. Don't
    compare your wife's body, budgeting skills, or parenting skills to
    that of other women. Your comparisons will crush her self-esteem over
    time.

    I laugh when some men claim that it is not our culture for them to
    cook, clean and take care of their children. I don't know how keeping
    your home clean is beneath you. You are not doing your wife a favour
    by cooking for her and the kids and cleaning up after them. It's your
    duty to take care of your family, don't leave it for your wife alone.
    You will wear her out.
    You may bring in half the income or all of it, but that doesn't mean
    you can chill on the couch while your wife cleans, tidies and washes
    dishes day-in and day-out. Kick it up a notch and offer to help out.
    Clean the toilet, yes, the one you use every day, carry in the
    groceries and wash your wife's clothes as well as that of your
    children. They are your children, not your wife's alone. You and your
    wife are a team and ought to work side by side creating the home of
    your dreams.

    If you lose your temper all the time, you are behaving like a child
    throwing tantrums. You are a grown man, and yelling at your wife is
    not appropriate, effective or helpful. Rage, lashing out, throwing
    things and threatening are all forms of abuse. Beating her is a crime.
    Learn to control your temper. You don't go about beating your fellow
    men so why do you think it's right to beat your wife?

    If you think you can sneak off with that babe from work and your wife
    will never know, then you are kidding yourself and in for a very rude
    awakening. And honestly, even if your wife never found out, it's still
    wrong. Don't throw away everything that is truly meaningful for a
    fleeting moment of pleasure. Choose to be honest. Choose to be loyal.
    Live up to those promises you made to your bride. She deserves all
    that, and more.

    One man said on Facebook last week that it is the norm for men to
    cheat but it should be done discreetly because they are men but women
    can't try that because when the man paid her bride price, he paid for
    her v**ina to be his forever. I truly do not understand this crap. If
    you want a faithful wife, you have to be a faithful husband. Stop
    expecting fidelity from the woman you cheat on.

    If you are a bad husband, you should change. It doesn't make you a
    woman wrapper to be a good husband. Decide to be better man and make
    changes so that you can enjoy your wife for life.

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